Gentle check-ins
How are you really doing?
Sometimes we say "fine" so many times we stop noticing what's actually going on inside. These short check-ins are a quiet moment to turn toward yourself — honestly, gently, without judgment.
Completely private
Nothing is saved or tracked. Your answers stay with you.
Not a diagnosis
These aren't clinical tools. They're an invitation to check in with yourself.
No right answers
Whatever you're feeling is a valid response to an incredibly hard situation.
How Are You Really Doing?
A gentle check-in, just for you
Sometimes we say "fine" so many times that we stop noticing what's actually going on inside. This isn't a test with right or wrong answers. It's a quiet moment to turn toward yourself, honestly, and see where you are right now.
Begin check-inWhat's Weighing on You?
A quiet look at what you might be carrying without realizing it
When we go through something overwhelming, our minds sometimes protect us by pushing certain feelings aside. It's a kind of inner kindness — but sometimes those feelings need somewhere to go. These questions aren't meant to diagnose anything. They're just an invitation to look inward, gently.
Begin check-inCarrying Grief
A compassionate check-in for those who have lost someone
Grief doesn't follow a schedule or a script. It doesn't move in a straight line, and it doesn't end when people around you expect it to. These questions are an invitation — not to measure how well you're grieving, but to gently check in with where you are right now.
Begin check-inAm I Taking Care of Myself?
A self-care check-in during the hardest season
When cancer enters your life, your own needs often get pushed to the bottom of the list. You focus on treatments, appointments, other people's feelings — and somewhere along the way, you stop checking in with yourself. This is a gentle invitation to pause and ask: how am I actually taking care of me?
Begin check-inIs Caregiving Taking a Toll on You?
An honest check-in for those who care for someone with cancer
Caregivers often put everyone else first. You manage appointments, emotions, logistics, and your own life — all at once. But who is checking on you? This is a moment to stop, breathe, and honestly reflect on how caregiving is affecting your own wellbeing.
Begin check-inWhat Kind of Support Do I Need?
Discovering the type of help that would actually reach you
"Let me know if you need anything" — you've probably heard it a hundred times. But knowing what you need is harder than it sounds. This check-in helps you reflect on the kind of support that might actually help, so you can start asking for what would make a difference.
Begin check-inHow Connected Do I Feel?
Checking in on your relationships and sense of belonging
Cancer changes relationships. It can bring some people closer and push others away. It can make crowded rooms feel lonely and quiet moments feel overwhelming. This check-in is about your connections — with others, with yourself, and with the world around you.
Begin check-inAm I Finding My Way Forward?
For those navigating life after treatment or loss
When treatment ends — or when the storm passes — people expect you to feel relieved. But the reality is often more complicated. You might feel lost, scared, grateful, and empty all at once. This check-in is for the in-between: when the acute crisis has passed but you're still figuring out who you are now.
Begin check-inAre You Experiencing Anticipatory Grief?
Understanding the grief that comes before the loss
Grief doesn't only begin after someone dies. When someone you love has a serious or terminal illness, grief can begin long before the end — while they're still here. This check-in explores whether what you're experiencing might be anticipatory grief, and helps you understand what you're carrying.
Begin check-inHow Are You Processing the Diagnosis?
For anyone newly navigating a cancer diagnosis — yours or a loved one's
A cancer diagnosis — whether your own or someone you love — can shatter the ground beneath you. In the days and weeks after, there's no roadmap. This check-in helps you understand where you are emotionally, and offers gentle guidance for what comes next.
Begin check-inIs My Grief Becoming Complicated?
Understanding when grief needs more support
Grief after losing someone to cancer is not a disorder — it is love with nowhere to go. But sometimes grief becomes stuck in a way that makes daily life very difficult for an extended period. This check-in helps you understand whether your grief might benefit from additional support.
Begin check-inAm I Withdrawing from the People Who Care About Me?
A check-in about isolation during illness or grief
Cancer and grief can pull people inward. Sometimes that withdrawal is self-protective. But sometimes it becomes isolation — a pattern that makes an already hard experience harder and lonelier. This check-in helps you see if you might be withdrawing more than is helping you.
Begin check-inHow Is Your Sleep and Rest During This Time?
Because rest is not a luxury — it is how we survive hard things
Cancer and grief disrupt sleep in profound ways — fear keeps the mind awake, grief exhausts the body, worry has no off switch. This check-in helps you understand what's happening with your rest and offers gentle guidance for supporting yourself.
Begin check-inIf you need to talk to someone right now
These check-ins are a starting point, not a substitute for real support. If you're struggling, please reach out to someone who can really help.
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